Love...

Relationships are hard. Very hard. Anyone who tells you otherwise is selling something.

In order to be truly committed to someone and love them, in that beautiful, unconditional way, you have to make conscious daily decisions to do so. It doesn't happen by accident or hapenstance. Maybe falling in love or infatuation can just happen, but relationships take work. Once the prelimenary, fuzzy butterflies period has passed, you have to decide. Am I here while this person makes me feel good? Or am I gonna ride the muther f*cker 'till the wheels fall off?

You have to understand that if you stay with one person long enough there WILL be periods when you want to give up. There will be time when it feels like the passion has faded and it's time to move on.

You have to accept that somedays you are NOT going to like that person. Somedays he or she will make you want to push them in front of a bus or stab them repeatedly with the nearest sharp object. There's nothing you can do about it. People are just human. Flawed and frail and full of short comings, insecurities, fears, and pride. We are in turns selfish, giving, affectionate, distant, stubborn, submissive, silly, manic...

Any person you see, no matter how wonderful or beautiful they may appear on the outside, has the potential to make miserable the indivdual with whom they are involved. The grass in NOT greener, and there are weeds in everybody's lawn.

The beauty comes when you find that one person who accepts you just as you are and loves you anyway. That one person who can see your b.s. coming a mile away and still welcomes you with open arms. They may pop you in the back of the head but at least you know they are there for you.
The challenge is being willing to do the same for them. We can't expect unconditional love if we are not will to give it.

I'm tired of trying to be perfect for someone who will never really know or love the real me.
I'm ready to be me. Just me, and be loved for all my good and all my bad and all my other.
I'm ready to truly know someone and love them for all their good, bad and other.

Hopefully, neither of us will end up in front of a bus.

That is all.

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